Ways To Recognize Toxic Friendships!
A toxic friend is not easy to spot, it may take some time before you do,however there are normally red flags do you feel uninspired, do they add value to your life, do they always seem distant when you have good news, are you always there for them, but it is never returned? chances are, you are in a toxic friendship! 1. Never celebrate your good news If you want to know how a person feels about you tell them good news and wait for the reaction. Are you hesitant to tell her about your new boyfriend? hide the fact that you got a promotion, a new house, or other good news? your toxic friends are jealous, envious, competitive, or negative when you experience success and accomplishments. 2. Pathological lier Constantly mixing up her stories keeps getting her facts mixed up, you just KNOW she's not being totally legit with you. Someone who can not be themselves and feels the need to portray themselves as something they are not are not a genuine person without trust their is no friendship. They tend to be fantasists and out of touch of reality. Pathological liers also exhibit strange behaviour such as disappearing when a big lie is told etc. The goal of the liar may be hidden, Liars, are known to “study” the person they hope to take advantage of. Plus their insecurities and lack of self love cause them to lie. 3. Drama They are forever in drama constantly in conflict with friends, family, work colleagues. Everything is always debate and they never seem to get along with others and everything is a drama. Whether your friend always needs too much attention, money, or a place to stay, you're probably feeling a little drained having to bear the weight of their issues and they never ask about yours. Simple issues will always seem like an emergency to them. 4. Constantly Negative A real Debbie downer who seems the glass half full no matter what you say or plan to do the response is always negative for example, I want to apply for a promotion, why, you may as well stay in your role, forever a negative response. From morning to night they complain about everything from noise on the train on the way to work, to their work colleagues their car and every little thing in between. Also they complain about them selves being too old for this and that, too poor too ugly constant complaints. As friends we all need one another and there are situations in life when we need our friends a little bit more ,for example a breakup ,loss etc. However there are these friends even in adulthood that expect you to act as though you are in relationship with them, need daily calls and to meet up all the time and if you miss 1 event all hell will break loose even if you have a good excuse. The friendship becomes more like a Therapist to patient role. 7. Competitive A little healthy competition amongst friends can be harmless, however when it goes to an extreme level for instance ,a certain business idea they will copy after they dismissed when you said your plans. They seem to flirt with your man, and also it and then if you perhaps start a work out phase they copy your style how you speak etc. Friendships should not be competitive. 8. Plays the victim They take no responsibility ever for their life and throw a pity party whenever they can. Everything bad in their life is someone else's fault. 9. Envious They just seem to have this underlying jealousy and will at any given opportunity unity out you down directly or indirectly. They will diminish your success or good news, while celebrating others. They will imitate you but never give you credit, and keep a distance when you are doing well, but stay close when things are bad. Can you name more toxic friend traits ?