Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

Through my own experiences and loved ones, I have gained so much knowledge about dysfunctional relationships! It took me a long time but I finally was able to understand what a relationship is! If you are constantly in bad relationships chances are you are also play a part in this. This can be a result of either the example of your upbringing or low self esteem. Although the focus is on romantic relationships, the post also relates to relationships in work, family, friends. So why do people stay in toxic relationships? The main reasons from my findings is codependency, the need for other peoples approval and sense of identity, chronic people-pleasing basing your whole existence or purpose on another person/people. Codependency can be overextending yourself and never putting yourself first, you feel the need to always meet everyone/partners need. As well as normally unable to find satisfaction in your life outside of a specific person/people. Without this relationship, you feel your life has no value. When a codependent person goes through a break up it destroys them, they feel cannot exist without a partner. Normally from early onthe relationship has red flags, however, the codependent person will never leave the toxic partner in spite of their behaviour. Another thing is codependents tend to hop from one relationship to the next and are rarely ever single, always in a relationship or situationship mourning breakups like its a death! Of course it is normal to mourn after a breakup; however, codependents post-breakup tend to suffer from mental health such as like anxiety, depression, PTSD. Many people are not aware of their codependency.
. Reasons for being in unhealthy relationships : Low self-esteem/ self-worth Fear of being alone Hope partner will change Ashamed/ judgment from others Financially dependent on partner Don’t think you can do better Children Culture/ religion Codependents choose projects and will often attract partners with addiction issues, lost in life and take on their problems,they attract narcissist! 1. Never put self first
2. Will do anything to hold on to relationship
4. Responsible for keeping relationship together
5. You feel the need to meet partners every need
6. You find it impossible to say no So there you go some of the basics of codependency traits within a relationship. HOW TO RECOVER FROM CODEPENDENCY Learn to love yourself
Read books
Create boundaries
Soul search
Assess your previous relationships
Therapy/counselling to work through attachment issues References